He has interests.
Make them valuable in 4 easy steps.
turn a casual interest into something meaningful!
Don't only rely on his passing interests to drive his motivation.
Use your family assets to build talent and focus.
This can quickly lead to a dead-end if you're not careful. But it's the place to start. Get a list out and write out everything they're interested in, from bugs to baking, from basketball to biology. Include it all.
There's a strategy and reason behind this: while your teen is developing talent, he's accessing resources within the family to get immediate feedback of his progress in a safe environment.
The best part? He's bringing value to your family. Long gone are the days of forced performance. You will look forward to what he produces and he'll shine from your praise.
Or if your teenager is older than 14 but still wrestling with one or more of these problems:
This track in Parent-Their-Passion will show you how to trigger a deep inner motivation and a passion for developing something he can be proud of.
Sighing and telling your child to “find something to do” every five minutes doesn’t work. The reality: your child truly doesn’t know how to get started!
He’s depending on you to guide him out of his rut. This is where a method to guide him comes into play.
This method will show you how to use your child’s identity as the primary energy source for finding his deep inner motivation and passion.
Your child will feel whole, powerful, and capable.
Can you genuinely say that your child has a deep, inner motivation that will give him that sense of joy and accomplishment to carry him up and into his adult years?
If so, then your child is in a good spot, and you should continue doing what you are doing. Check out the other tracks of Parent-Their-Passion on how to accelerate his trajectory.
If your son or daughter is bored, unfocused, and wasting their potential, keep reading.
Or, if they are so squirrely-minded that they can’t stay with one interest long enough to develop some meaningful knowledge or skill, then this article is also for you.
I will show you how to generate a sustained focus that your child will truly enjoy.
I will show you how to bring about on-demand in your child a deep motivation and passion within just a few months of starting!
This secret? Do it while your teenager is still young enough to activate and amplify what he already has within him and around him.
This is what I call “becoming more of who he is.”
External identities and external motivations far removed from his current life work best when your child is an older teenager with experiences of what works and doesn’t work. When he is younger (ages 12 to 14), I have found that this track is the most effective and fun for everyone to watch him change in real-time.
Having your child become more of who he is involves lining up three elements that already exist within your family: Personal Interest, Tools & Assets, and Value to Others. We’ll get into those in just a minute.
“Becoming more of who he is” means he will start from the stable position of his current abilities and of his current understanding of the world.
Your child’s identity extends to include all his parent’s abilities, his family’s assets and the tools it controls, not forgetting the input of his family’s social connections and mindsets.
His father’s car is his car, in the sense that he can go as far as his father is willing to drive him to the activities they choose. Her mother’s easy math abilities are the daughter’s abilities, as far as her mom is willing to patiently teach her inside tricks at becoming so proficient. This principle can extend all the way into the physical and social world around them.
By stacking these three key elements:
Those three key elements are probably not stacked up right now.
In the worst case, those three elements might be competing against each other! They are co-existing at best.
The end result of a lack of alignment of those three elements is a teenager that is unmotivated, passion-less, and disconnected.
Stack up the three key elements properly and your teen’s motivation problems disappear.
Here’s what you do:
If you stack those three elements, in that order, you will have success.
This is the secret formula for creating passion-on-demand:
Interest + Tools + Value = Passion
“Becoming More of Who He Is” takes your child from passive curiosity and ho-hum interest to a higher level of passion and motivation.
Now that you know the formula, let’s look closely at each of the three elements and how you stack them on top of each other.